If we cannot laugh at ourselves, all hope is lost!
March 13, 2009**Disclaimer – I do not condone violence against another person…I practice forgiveness, but I can’t pretend I didn’t have revenge fantasies at one time or another during our ‘trouble’**
So…I was surfing around, caught a link to this video on YouTube….and I thought it spoke so well to the emotions on both sides…I did not expect the ending! I was just getting into the emotions, feelings….and then BOOM. So…yeah. No offense meant to any of my blog friends….If we cannot laugh at ourselves, all hope is lost!
Here’s a link…embedding disabled on request….blah!
Better version of song….no boom:)
Change in Progress! 
hey t! no offense taken… and you are right, we have to laugh. and i think we might all be guilty of revenge fantasies… i still have them. i just dont act on them- nor will i! although i often wonder what will happen if i cross R or his wife or both of them in public- i often believe our close proximity will one day lead to a run in… and as you have read he has already “kept” her away from my gym! i wonder how long that will last… i would never be physical- im just worried what might come out of my opinionated mouth!
i thought id share two videos with you… one that i think explains how i felt all too well… i love the end and would listen to this song and tell myself one day i would have the strength to have that attitude…
and one that brought me a lot of strength, fun, and laughter…
Nice video. A bit hard to watch from my standpoint, as you might imagine. I will say this: It’s by the grace of God my wife didn’t drive to OW’s house and beat her ass after our affair was exposed. I didn’t know this early on, but found out later there were plans in the works by my wife for some serious butt kickin.’ OW doesn’t know how close she came to getting her head bashed in by my wife and our two teen daughters. They probably would’ve killed her had they gone through with it.
That said, I don’t condone violence either. And I’ll bet my a** OW doesn’t condone it either. :-)
MM – I hope you DO have the attitude displayed at the end of that song…no one deserves half-assed love. No one. I think there’s plenty of heartache and emotion on every side of this equation…after posting that video (and listening to the better version of the song multiple times, I jumped around youtube watching other similar videos…talk about a trigger…oh boy! Loved the Pink video…Oh heck…I just love me some Pink lol! If I can offer a bit of advice? If you ever run into R or his wife…only dish your anger out on his head. She didn’t do anything…except believe a liar. He’s the three-strike (or more) serial loser. He would deserve whatever you choose to share with him :)
T – this video is hard to watch for all of us, I think…brings up some pretty raw emotions. The ending…well, I’d be lying if I didn’t wish that the ow in my case would step in front of a bus…or want to push her face through a brick wall…but yeah…nonviolence, that’s the ticket. God kept saying ‘forgive’, and I kept saying ‘no, no, no, no’…and then I finally said ‘yes, Lord’. THE absolute hardest thing I have ever done in my life…and I still have to do it every day. Somedays, it goes better that others :)
I had two good friends that really wanted to go kick her butt…but I new that would not get me what I wanted…which was for my husband to see that he was walking away from a good woman who loved him, and exactly what he was walking away for.
My teenage daughter was scared to death the ow was going to be a ‘fatal attraction’ type…she’d freak out if I left the door unlocked, etc… I was astounded that she thought the ow would come to hurt us…physically. Maybe it was because she inflicted as much mental and emotional pain as she possibly could…blah…enough of THAT. Trigger time :(
(not helped by the fact that I was cleaning out old email…and found emails from ow and husband during that time and started reading them…had to stop after a couple…and STILL…I didn’t delete them.)
Okay guys…let’s say it together…nonviolence good…revenge bad…forgiveness good…bitterness bad. Okay…that’s the extent of my mental agility after a visit to the in-laws today…ha!
i just want to state that i have never really even thought of giving his wife a hard time at all… and any anger i have is always directed at him. i think part of my fear of seeing her would just be how much id want to tell her what a liar she is with because i know so much more than she does. but as ive said before, its not really my place- this is the 2nd time she is going through this with him… if she wants to stay blind, im not going to change that.